This is the land of no judgement, Pinterest-perfect lies or B.S.
Because they send us home with tiny humans (and no supervison), and we’re all trying our best.
There’s so much more to life than having kids
(yeah, that’s right, I just said it!)
We’re not mothers OR women who work
We’re not mothers OR sexy ladies
We’re not mothers OR whole people capable of taking on the world
It’s time to embrace the AND
You can love your tiny humans AND love yourself
You can take great care of your family AND yourself
You can show up as a mother AND show up for yourself
This is full permission to be who you are as a person
Even — and especially — after you have kids
Scrolling through Instagram is a surefire way to feel like a failure as a mum.
It’s all snuggly pictures in matching outfits, and captions about finally feeling completed.
These Pinterest-perfect portrayals of motherhood are the modern day equivalent of the Vogue magazine we read as teens.
It’s all airbrushed, staged, filtered, and full of the sugar-coated fluffy B.S. that’s setting inaccurate expectations for all of us.
But here’s the thing
It doesn’t have to be this way
And I’m here to remind you that you deserve the same love, care, and attention that you give to your family.
I squished out my tiny human in June 2017 and I’m still surprised that I was allowed to take that tiny human home after 12 hours.
With no supervision. No college course in parenting. And pretty much no idea what I was doing.
(It also still shocks me that I literally grew balls and a penis, just for the record.)
But here we are. All still alive. All still winging it. All still fiercely loving each other and trying our best.
I’m still wondering where the support is for the shell-shocked, bleary-eyed new mum who’s still figuring out how to swaddle.
Or find time to scarf down a packet of crisps, let alone something that nourishes her body.
Or even dump some shampoo on her hair once a week.
We’ve grown and birthed the next generation, but then we’re pretty much left to our own overused and outdated devices.
(Not to mention the fact that support seems to only exist for brand new mums, when we all know the struggle is real when you’ve got a toddler.)
We’ve got gaps in our midriff where
our muscles used to meet.
We’ve got gaps in our vagina where
we used to have bladder control.
And we’ve got gaps in our bank balances
where £’s and pennies used to be.
Surely, I wasn’t the only one who threw out all the useless leaflets from the health visitor.
I wanted — and needed — simple advice I could trust.
Advice that was tailored to my new situation, because getting 8 hours of deep sleep, eating “leafy greens,” and curling my hair suddenly became a level of impossible that was AHAHAHAHAHAHA.
That practical advice didn’t exist.
So I’ve carefully & intentionally created it for us
Using my 6 years of nutrition experience, I’m making sure that you’re never left staring glassy-eyed into an empty fridge.
You should never be left feeling frumpy, ashamed, or frustrated because you want to lose weight (or not lose weight), and setting aside some time for yourself.
And you won’t be condemned to being a “Tena lady” at 35, feeling exhausted, defeated, and more than a little alone in this.
No way, Darling.
Not ever again.
Together, we’re going to find what works for you so you feel good — without adding anything else to your to-do list.
(And bonus: When you care for yourself, it’s so much easier to care for your tiny human.)
The official bio
Wilma MacDonald is a nutritional therapist and founder of Maverick Motherhood, a community for women who are changing the world – and also happen to have kids. She helps women realise that they don’t have to feel like sh*t as mums by helping them get their energy back and remember who they are as people. When we love ourselves, its easier to love our families.
She has a Diploma in Nutritional Therapy from the College of Naturopathic Medicine and is a member of the British Association of Nutritional Therapists (BANT) and Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC).